Thanks to Erin, Christine & Sue. Sue, I don't have your email address so I couldn't email you back personally, but thank you. I have been thinking a lot and have come to the conclusion of limiting my exposure to these two. I was already doing that but now that I've talked to DH and written this here and talked to you, it is kind of final. I still go out in the neighborhood but far less now because it's getting colder and well, we're busy! Vacation is coming up and we've been shopping after work most nights. I think I need to treat them like just neighbors, rather than friends. And that's fine.
Thinking back I have realized that I have *never* been talked to like this, and treated like this. Never. Not even in high school. Guess I chose my friends carefully back then! I have always believed that deep down, people are nice. Regardless of the drama with these two, I will continue to believe that. And yes, I'll continue looking for friends :) though I'll be a bit more selective now.